ungrateful..are u ?

Imagine someone does a lot of good to
you,without you doing something for
them. 

Or think about this,your parents
brought you up,gave you so much and
you disobey,disrespect and ignore
them. 

How would they feel (you'll understand
better when you become one) ? The common reaction of the majority of
human beings is to Retaliate..to stop Caring,stop Loving. Think about this Friends.. Allah-Who has Created you,Created the World for you,Provides for you,Loves
you,Protects you. 


You Reject Him-you reject He is your Creator and call upon others,who have
done nothing for you and do not have the power to do Anything for you. You Reject Him in your "Arrogance"
and in your "Ignorance" that He is The Creator. 

You Disobey Him,when He has prohibited that which is harmful for
"You". And even after you Reject Him,Even after you Disobey Him,
He " Still " Loves you,
He " Still " Provides for you,
He " Still " Gives you what you Need. 

How Ungrateful WE are and How Merciful ALLAH is ! How Great and Loving Our Creator is
and How Shameless,Arrogant and Disobedient WE are ! 

O Allah,have Mercy on us.
O Allah,forgive our sins.
Ya Allah,please make us among your grateful Slaves.Aameen.

women as objects of sex

It really irritates me to see the ads of bikes or cat food promoted by semi-naked women...What has cat food or bikes got to do with semi-naked or naked women?

My car was stuck in the traffic on the flyover near K.C.Das and I saw this ad on a board saying “playing Dirty”-an ad for deo or soap for men. The picture is not worth describing.
Ridiculous.


There are the so-called “item numbers” which are so “well justified” by people especially teens as just a form of dance..!
The title “item girl” makes majority of the girls so happy.. I wonder if they even understand what it implies.
Sick !


We don’t care about self-respect and do nothing to earn respect and then we expect everyone to respect us !
If you cannot respect “yourself” no one will.


I respect Parambrata Chatterjee,a Tollywood actor who featured in Kahani,he played a significant role.
He was a speaker in a panel discussion in an event organized by an NGO – ASRA. He said that he did not wish to be a part of those superhit films that boasted of “chikni chameli”, “fevicol se” , ‘munni badnaam hui”, “Sheila ki jawani”, “ooh la la”, ‘halkat jawani”, if it means to tarnish the image of a woman and disrespect them.

We talk about respecting women, Liberating women and our “great” movie makers make “Rowdy Rathore”,”The Dirty Picture”, “Ra one” and the list goes on.
Actor Aditi Rao Hydari in an interview to rediff.com said: “I wish our movies wouldn't objectify women. There's so much more to being a woman.” There have been some women centric movies like ‘Kahani’ or ‘No one Killed Jessica’ but those are just one or two.


Our TV serials are no less.Every serial,you name it has Adultery and Fornication whether its Bade Ache Lagte Hain,Tarak Mehta ka Ulta Chashma or even Balika Vadhu.

Even the cartoons are not spared.Kids around 5 years of age know who a “girlfriend” is,they know what a girl and a boy do when alone.
How sick can it get ?


Pornography-the internet market runs on it. Every second 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines. One out of five mobile users in India wants adult content on his 3G-enabled phone, according to an 2011 IMRB Survey.

Sunny Leone's CDs are bestsellers here in Kolkata. Teenage boys creep up and ask, "Sunny Leone ka CD chahiye?" (Want Sunny Leone's CDs?), at Chandni Chowk market in central Kolkata, the city's piracy hub. Step inside the dingy alleys between shops selling electronic goods, and piles of pirated blue film come out of hiding-Rs.120 for just a CD and Rs.250 for one with Leone on the cover. Ask too many questions and they show you the door. The police are their friends, although motorcycles stand ready for sudden crackdowns. "Sunny's CD is selling like hot cakes, 200 a day," says one.(India Today)


Everywhere,in every field,to promote an item “sexualisation” is the criteria for success of a product or a movie.


Surprisingly people watch it,buy it,encourage it,promote it.So,there’s more and there’s more of it and it doesn’t stop rather it increases tenfold.


You and I talk about respecting women on social media, in interviews, in panel discussions, in articles.

We talk about respecting women when a Rape Case is reported.

We talk and talk but we do nothing.


If it is a serious concern, an issue troubling you, do something. Start from where you are.

Perhaps your homes-stop watching those movies,those serials.
Dont let the kids in your house watch the cartoons that have such content.

You may ask how will my preventing help to stop it ?

Dear sister or brother in humanity,,remember CHANGE starts with “one”....Prophet Muhammad (pbuh),Mahatma Gandhi,Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King and Aung San Suu Kyi .

Change begins with you and then your family and then your society and then the nation.
Whenever there’s change in one part of the world,the rest of the world gets affected...
Why not affect the world Positively?


(thoughts after a long day of discussion on this topic)

Today we are living in the time of Fitnah and during these times we Need People of Motivation.

As women our roles and identities are questioned every single day.
The society as well as ourselves are responsible for the “bad picture" of a woman...
A woman who is a beautiful creation of Allah..women after whom a whole surah is named in the Quran-Surah AN-NISAA !

And one such woman was Maryam alay hissalam,the mother of Prophet Isa (Jesus) pbuh,after whom Surah Maryam was named.

Maryam was an honoured student of knowledge.
Allah says:
“He made her grow in a manner and put her under the care of Zakaria.”
(Quran,3:37)

She was taught by a Prophet and other scholars of Deen.

Many a times sisters today are discouraged from pursuing studies that would be beneficial for themselves and the Muslim Ummah.

They are told that the most important thing in life is to find a good husband and so their focus from gaining Knowledge is lost.

The role of wife and mother are significant and there is much more and without knowledge,they cannot fulfil their role in society.

Beneficial and Deeni Knowledge will ensure that women do not spend their time aimlessly or indulge in backbiting,quarrelling etc..

They will not Just “BRING UP CHILDREN” but” RAISE A GENERATION OF MEN LIKE MUSAB IBN UMAIR,KHALID BIN WALEED,UMAR BIN ABDUL AZIZ,ABU HURAIRAH.”


As women,we undergo trials and tribulations at every stage..in childhood,in the form of unequal treatment as compared to men;in the youth-pressure of marriage and committing zina or as mothers and wives-household responsibilities.

Maryam alay hissalam was an Epitome of TAWAKKUL in ALLAH. From her youth as a student of knowledge to her trials later on in life. From hiding the test of pregnancy to delivery of Prophet Jesus pbuh,to keep silent when her infant spoke to defend her honour.

Sometimes like Maryam,we do not have any human support and we are on our own but to be Patient in such times is not only BEING REWARDED WITH RELIEF but with SUCCESS too.

Today,she is the “most honoured woman in human history” and the “greatest woman in al-Akhirah.”

Subhanallah,her story is a shining example of the promise:
“INNAL AAQIBATUL MU’MINEEN”
“TRULY THE END IS FOR THE GOD CONSCIOUS.”
(QURAN,11:49)


Very often as women we are so occupied with studies,house work,family,kids that we don’t get the “alone time with our Creator”.

The excuse-“we are very busy” and that is why we face so many problems.

Maryam alay hissalam’s spirituality was also embodied in her Khalwa (Solitude) with Allah swt.
She always sought to increase her closeness to Allah.

Sometimes when the heart aches,one reaches for unhealthy distractions-movies,serials etc and pain goes away temporarily.When the distraction is gone,pain returns.

“Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.”
(QURAN,13:28)


It might happen that you might find yourself alone with a good looking man/boy in school or college or tuitions or gatherings.It might be tempting,you might get carried away or commit zina but listen to this :

When Jibreel alay hissalam appeared before Maryam in the form of a handsome man when she was alone,she did not say a “hi !” “hello!” “Assalamualaikum”.

She said:
“I seek refuge in the Most Merciful from you,(so leave me),if you should be fearing of God.”
(Quran,19:18)

Maryam calls Allah by “AR-RAHMAN”,hoping that the stranger who was transgressing would abstain from the evil..a Dawah lesson for us all.

Also reflect on this:Maryam’s modesty..she did not allow him to start a conversation.


Maryam alay hissalam was truly spiritually liberated.Her self esteem was based on her relationship with Allah,not with the number of stares and random conversation she could provoke from strange men.

In Islam,a woman’s worth is not defined by men but by her Creator,Allah.

May Allah’s peace be upon her.May Allah allow us to be inspired by her life and embody humility and modesty in our hearts,speech and personal spaces.

May Allah help us to derive lessons from the life of Maryam as a wise and honoured student of knowledge,her spiritual journey,her devotion to Dawah,her commitment to modesty.Aameen